Not all bullies shout and punch

Anti bullying week is 16-20th November 2020. This year, many are tired and stressed from living and working through this pandemic. In the workplace and at home, this is resulting in some behaviours which are less than ideal, with tempers being short and tolerance levels lower than usual. It is worth remembering that there are more discrete behaviours such as undermining and constant criticism that take their toll and need nipping in the bud too. 

Not all bullies shout and punch

Smiling eyes,

Belied only by an almost imperceptible 

Flinch at the corner.

 

Twittering jollity;

A false levity studded with veiled barbs 

That effortlessly wound.

 

Sycophantic niceties;

Their thick sugar coat fails to disguise

The venom concealed.

 

I shrink. 

Deflated, disappointed, disheartened, dejected. 

I retreat to heal;

Until we meet again. 

 

October 2020

COVID #5: Learning from COVID

COVID poem #5: Learning from COVID

Life is to be savoured.

We took so much for granted

Without appreciating how very fortunate we were

Without COVID. 

 

Things like hugs,

Unmasked faces,

Sharing air and touching,

Without fear of catching or sharing infection.

 

Dinner dates,

Drinks after work,

Family gatherings and celebrations,

Without having to consider where or how many people.

 

Visiting grandparents,

Holding their wrinkled hands,

Sitting close so they can lip-read and hear,

Without masks, alcohol gel, plastic screens or visiting bans.

 

Planning holidays abroad,

Tropical beaches, revitalising sunshine, 

Spectacular scenery, edifying cultural experiences,

Without fear of cancellation, quarantine, or implications for work and school.

 

Sitting in cinemas

Sharing bags of popcorn,

Concerts, arenas, standing in big crowds,

Without any thought of virus spread and global pandemics. 

 

One day,

One very fine day,

We'll do all these things again,

Savouring every moment, every touch, and every breath

Without COVID.

 

 

Rachel McCoubrie

24.10.20

COVID #4: 20/20 or 2020 Vision?

 It's World Poetry Day today and the theme is vision. Here's something I put together as I crunched on my granola this morning. 

20/20 or 2020 Vision

With my 20/20 vision, 

I may have ‘normal’ sight,

But my 2020 vision

Is what keeps me up at night.

 

With my 2020 vision,

Masked faces our disguise, 

Always second guessing

What might lie beneath the eyes.

 

With my 2020 vision,

Social distancing upheld,

Friends and family hurting,

Hugs and handshakes are withheld.

 

But my 20/20 vision

Can help me through each day,

Accepting this is tricky,

It won’t always be this way.

 

These 2020 measures

Are designed to keep us safe,

Flattening the curve

Of this second COVID wave.

 

Protecting one another,

We can meanwhile fantasize,

About the day we’ll hug and see

Those smiles beneath our eyes. 

Rachel McCoubrie

1.10.2020

COVID #3: Alphabet News

I was pondering how the news had brought us so many 'bad news' stories at the start of 2020 -  Brexit, then Coronavirus, then the daily climbing Death toll. I was struck by the B-C-D sequence of these, and started wondering what better news the alphabet could bring us as we head through the rest of the year. I hope some of this more cheerful Alphabet News comes our way!

PS This was a bit of a labour of love - not only finding items beginning with the right letters, but also then making them rhyme! 🤓

Alphabet News

The A news came first, with Austerity raging,

Air strikes, Acquittals, Alzheimers, Ageing,

Australia and Amazon ravaged by fire,

Air pollution climbed higher and higher. 

B brought us Brexit, dividing opinion 

And Boris behaving like Trump's little minion.

Leavers and remainers hurled verbal abuse

As Brexit reporting took over the news.

We thought B was bad, but then followed C,

This Coronavirus called COVID-19.

Highly infectious, sweeping the nation,

We were underprepared for this viral vexation.

The Death toll came next as we moved onto D

In hospitals, care homes, communities. 

Numbers, statistics displayed on our screens

And families left grieving behind the scenes. 

Let's hope as we move through the rest of the year, 

The Alphabet News will bring us more cheer:

Education for all, endorsing Ecology,

Renewable Energy, stable Economy,

Freedom, Fair-trade, Fresh Food and Fun,

Gratitude, Greenpeace, Giving up Guns,

Housing the homeless, Hope, Healthy Hearts,

Inventions, Income, Investing in arts,

Justice and Jobs, Kindness all round,

Liberty, Learning, Love that abounds,

Mindfulness, Music, new Medicines discovered, 

NHS funding, Natural beauty uncovered,

Opportunity, Openness, Organ donation,

Plastics reduced and Pride in our nation,

Pollution solutions and Quality measures,

Racial equality, Sporting and leisure,

Scientific discovery, Trade deals, Tolerance, 

Unity, Vaccines, good Work-life balance, 

Women's rights, Wellness, Wildlife protection,

World peace through leaders finding connection,

With Xenophobia a thing of the past,

Young people building a future to last

With Zero tolerance to all types of abuse

And a Zest for more cheerful Alphabet News.

Rachel McCoubrie July 2020

Crime vs pain

Pain control is a large part of the job working in palliative care. Many words are used to describe pain, and I was struck by the crossover with words that also describe crimes. Perpetrators of crime are often dealt with by our legal system, but there is no similar justice system when it comes to cancer. 

Crime vs. Pain

Shooting, stabbing, even burning,

All are worthy of the news 

All are acts of mindless violence,

Unacceptable abuse.

Shooting, stabbing, even burning,

Words used to describe the pain

Words of daily life for many

Unacceptable again.

What’s horrific to the nation

Stirring up emotion, feeling

Can be normal for the patient - 

Daily grind takes on new meaning.

Though the villains are convicted,

Justice prevailing in the end,

Cancer is again acquitted

Moving on to re-offend.

Unacceptable. 

The end.

Rachel McCoubrie 

Ask me

This is another poem written when I was working in Palliative Care to stress the importance of being honest with patients about where they are in their illness so they can plan ahead. 

Ask me

You ask me what I’d like? Well, I’d like to be well.

But that's not what you meant, as far as I can tell.

And if I can’t be well, then I’d like to be ‘not bad’.

That covers quite a lot - with lots of joy to be had. 

Or if I’m not ‘not bad’, I’m maybe ‘getting worse’;

Although that’s not brilliant, it’s not a hopeless curse.

Though if I’m getting worse, then I really need to know - 

I’ve so much to sort out before it’s time to go.

So if you respect me, please help me understand,

Then ask me what I’d like and help me get things planned.

Rachel McCoubrie 29.3.19

COVID #2: The COVID toll in May

Working in the NHS, as we realise this virus is not going away any time soon, the road ahead feels daunting and long, hence the marathon analogy. There are also many NHS staff feeling the strain and not sharing with others how they are feeling, because we feel we ought to be able to cope and we should just be getting on with it. I wanted to highlight that it is taking it's toll in different ways, and it's okay for us to admit that. 

The COVID toll in May

As days turn to weeks and now months, 

With COVID infections worldwide,

Adrenaline fades to fatigue, 

We begin to slow down our stride.

We knew we were facing a marathon,

Perhaps without taking stock

Of the challenge of taking on 26 miles,

Having hitherto jogged round the block. 

Yet somehow we’re running this race, 

But are we at two miles or ten? 

We are tired and need to pace ourselves, 

But don’t have a clue until when. 

The ‘post-pandemic’ finishing line, 

Seems a distant, elusive ideal.

Our wealth of experience is not quite enough for

The physical and mental ordeal. 

Some of us struggling, juggling life,

Surviving but not quite okay,

“I’m fine thanks,” we say and continue our day

With a stiff upper lip on display.

But a common humanity binds us all, 

It’s a beautiful bond we possess;

We’re human, not robots, and we all feel the strain

As we live with this moral distress. 

It shows itself in various ways 

We are tired, emotional, scared; 

Frustrated at things we cannot control

Feeling anxious or underprepared. 

It’s okay to experience these feelings,

Tell your team - it may help them too. 

This marathon may be a very long way,

But together, we’re strong; we’ll get through.

Rachel McCoubrie 

May 2020 

COVID #1: Going viral

Written near the start of the Covid-19 pandemic in the UK in 2020. So much sadness was on the news and yet some things were happening that definitely felt like a breath of fresh air. 

Going viral

A breath of calm on waking, 

No sooner taken than replaced

By a gut wrenching dawning 

On remembering reality.

Unwilling extras in this pandemic movie

Of unknown duration, with unscripted end.

A morbid urge to catch up on the plot –

Statistics, curfews, deaths.

Isolation, empty shelves, fear.

Yet quietly and gently a subplot emerges,
A resilient, defiant shoot pushing through the dark.

Our planet slowly but surely begins to heal -
Birdsong in China, clear waters in Venice, plummeting pollution,

Earth pauses to take a breath.

Our community reaches out with open hearts,
Taking notice of the elderly, helping strangers,

Sharing a limitless capacity for kindness.

Our families unite, exchanging frequent messages of hope and love,

Finding virtual togetherness across the generations,

Being creative, thinking outside the box.

The silver lining appearing around this viral cloud shines brightly.
There is no talk of racism, hate crimes, immigrants,
No criticism of NHS waiting lists, inefficiencies or inadequacies.
Instead, 'NHS heroes', government funding and a new togetherness emerge.

For truly, we are all in this together.

There is only one enemy here.

By Dr Rachel McCoubrie 21.3.20